The seven year itch, it’s called. It seems to be the timeline in a relationship when boredom or lack of passion begins to set in. It could happen later than that for some couples, or even sooner. But, at some point there comes a time when the spark is missing.
Every relationship takes work and commitment to make sure that it is able to evolve. People change over time, so the relationship has to change with them. And that isn’t easy to do. Life together can’t be like the first date forever.
It takes some determination to make sure that the passion is still there and that you feel that same enthusiasm about the relationship as you had in the early days.
In this article, I will go over some ways to make sure that you keep that spark alive that will fan the flames of passion in your relationship.
1 – Give a gift for no reason
A gift can show somebody that you have been thinking of them and want to bring them some joy since they bring you so much. When the spark seems to be fading, a gift at the right time can do wonders to help reignite it.
Amazing gift ideas for your husband or boyfriend are not difficult to find especially when you know him well. And if you think it’s the husband’s or boyfriend’s job to be the gift giver, well, that is not a good way to think.
This should be a two way street in which both of you are thinking about each other. You may be wondering why he doesn’t ever give you small gifts to show his appreciation from you, but if you start the trend then he will surely follow.
2 – Make the changes you want to see
To piggyback on the last bit in the last section. Instead of waiting for things to change, you may need to take the initiative. Don’t ask him why he never gives you tokens of appreciation lately. Or why he isn’t so affectionate. It can put him on the defensive and have the opposite effect. Rightly or wrongly. So, if you want more affection, then be more affectionate. If you want more spontaneity from your partner, then be more spontaneous.
Of course, there does come a point that if the hint isn’t taken then you’ll have to be more blunt about it. At least start the process and see how it goes.
3 – Do activities together
It’s definitely good for a couple for the individuals to have their own separate interests. Hobbies that they can do on their own so they can grow themselves as an individual and not a half of a pair.
But, the trouble with most couples is that they have too much time apart doing their own things. It’s almost like they live a life together but separately. Try to change that by either finding activities that can be done together or by inviting your partner along in your hobby.
Whatever it is you decide to do, make sure that it is something that is engaging for both of you and something to look forward to. Even just doing something like a board game together can create a deep bond. And if the activity has you laughing together it can bring you right back to the early period in your relationship when you just enjoyed each other’s company very much.
4 – Put the phone down
If you are sitting together then actually be in each other’s presence by putting down the phone. Of course, you can check your social media and read some articles on your phone whenever you please, but try to set aside the time to do that when you are on your own.
When you are together it should be quality time in which conversations are started and ideas are exchanged. When you are both on your phones, it can set the tone that you are not present and the presence of your partner is not that important to you.
Social media and our devices are driving a wedge between us and our loved ones. Try to break the habit and you’ll see a big difference in your relationship.
It’s a bit of work keeping the spark alive. But, it should never feel like a chore. When you dedicate yourself to living a beautiful life together, then it will pay off in spades.